Despite my criticism, I find myself listening to Dr. Drew just about every night of the week. It’s how I go to sleep at night. I recently tuned in and what irritated me this time was his reaction to a guy who called in and asked about how much masturbation was too much. Can there [...]

By now, I think most gay men have read the really compelling feature article, “Has Manhunt Destroyed Gay Culture” in a recent issue of Out magazine by journalist Michael Joseph Gross on gay men and their use of online “dating” sites. As a gay man who has used these “dating” sites, I can’t help but [...]

I wanted to get to this earlier. Sorry about that. I was a little distracted.
But today is a new day. But before we get started, a little background.
I never planned on blogging. I was happy with my freelance writing life interviewing people like Aesop Rock, Todd Oldham, and Cillian Murphy, as well as holding down [...]

So, first of all, don’t hate me.
I know I promised to tell all about after sharing a particularly embarrassing story last week, but you’re going to have to bear with me.
By now, most of you know I’ve been on a new heartfelt quest for romance and by default, some of those stories end up here [...]

Just a reminder to tune on Monday for the big reveal.
You remember that whole, “Oh-Derrick-got-caught-whacking-off-at-the-stadium-during-a-baseball-game thing?” (If you don’t, you can read all about it here.)
It was funny, it was sad, it was embarrassing, it was mortifying, and it was a long time ago, thank the heavens.
But keep that in mind…something fun for the whole [...]

In 1989 or so, my late mother decided to run for political office. Nothing major, think school board, not state senator, but it was exciting nonetheless. One of her fund raising activities was an all-day tailgate scenario culminating in watching the San Diego Padres play one of their foes and that would be followed by [...]

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I get crushes all the time. The thing is, I don’t know how to react to them. I’ve been in love with more people who’ve never known about it than you can possibly imagine. I had a crush on a guy for like three years and sat on it [...]

Oh, straight men. How thou confuseth us. Well, not me, really. There are a lot of gay men out there who covet you hetero boys because we always seem to want what we can’t have. If you would just give us five minutes of your time, we’d drop our bottom jaws like rattlesnakes and give [...]

I grew up with AIDS. When it made its impact in America, I was roughly ten years old and along with poverty, crack, and gangs, I watched it kick the inner city’s and a lot of black and brown people’s ass.  A neighbor buried a son who, being a child of the eighties, loved his [...]

I’m surely not the only homo who would love to wrap their legs around Henry Rollins and not just because he’s a hot and sexy punk rock singer, spoken word performer, actor, but because he’s a huge advocate for queers and GLBT rights and politics. I found this interview on Queerpunks via my good friend [...]