I don’t have to tell how important and historic a day like today is. Far more talented people have and can say it more eloquently and in ways that will put me to shame. Whatever the results are of today’s election, people have gotten more involved. Whether it was due to losing their home to [...]

I didn’t coin the phrase Keep It Real, (although I’m absolutely certain I came up with TMI as a moniker for Too Much Information), but I do rock KIR as an acronym for the oft-said phrase. And today’s post will deal with some people who need to do just that, KIR, when it comes to [...]

Something happened last week that really got me thinking. No, it wasn’t the sexy hip-hopper with the perfect little mouth from Miami I made out with, although that certainly gives one pause. No, it was seeing an old friend who is sweet and lovable; a Midwestern white girl who is creative, funny, and talented as [...]

Hey all.
Sorry its been so long for a new post. And with this, it will probably be a bit longer still. Craziness at the day job, the drama of seeing an old flame, the event of my late mother’s birthday, and just the current state of the world today has me feeling a bit worn [...]

I’m in a foul ass, shitty ass mood today. Hey, it happens to the best of us, right? I was recently contacted by someone with whom I thought I was OK friends, after years of distance, time, and space. Before you all try and analyze me (I already have a therapist, thank you very much), [...]

So I’m on the fence. I hate to keep harping, and I know a lot of people can be squeemish about revealing details about their intimate and private life as I’ve so graciously done at the expense of having a life (do you know how awkward it can be running into people after they’ve read [...]

I’ve been really forthcoming about sharing crazy intimate details me and my rather stagnant sex life (go through the archives and count the masturbation related posts), so to help stem that, I’m taking on questions from you, my faithful readers. Or so my Google Analytics report tells me.
Am I qualified? Only in the sense that [...]

Oh, straight men. How thou confuseth us. Well, not me, really. There are a lot of gay men out there who covet you hetero boys because we always seem to want what we can’t have. If you would just give us five minutes of your time, we’d drop our bottom jaws like rattlesnakes and give [...]

I grew up with AIDS. When it made its impact in America, I was roughly ten years old and along with poverty, crack, and gangs, I watched it kick the inner city’s and a lot of black and brown people’s ass.  A neighbor buried a son who, being a child of the eighties, loved his [...]

The first in an occasional post directed to my fellow gay men whom sometimes need a little direction.
This is going out to all my fellow homos and queers. I love you. You know I do. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t be writing and trying to give you all some sage advice on the regular. With [...]